Dating how to play it cool
When you let your guard down and assume the best in a man, guess what happens? These are two key elements a man needs to feel in order to see you as the kind of woman he can have a lasting, connected relationship with.
Jessica wants to do this relationship the right way-- unlike the miserable dating experiences she's had in the past.
As movies like have illustrated, building a relationship tends to be complicated. I say “over-stalk” because we are all guilty of Facebook creeping to a certain degree.
To simplify things, I've compiled this list, based on observations and real life experiences people have shared with me. The trick is not going so over-the-top as to make it obvious. But there are too many cringe-worthy stories of guys and girls alike crossing the line from friendly to obsessed to leave it off the list.
I once dated a guy who I thought was so cool because whenever I asked him a serious question, he would just reply with something elusive, and it made me want him more because I just had to “crack” him in a way. I thought he was just being cool and playing hard to get in order to get me really going after him. But I later found out he was also working this same scheme with at least two other girls.
Playing hard to get versus playing you Being elusive and mysterious is all fun and games until the mystery is suddenly revealed in a way that leaves you heartbroken and angry.
Tell me if you’ve ever done this: you come across a guy who’s your type, but pretend not to be too into him because you think he might not be into you.
Or perhaps you automatically assume he must already be taken. You look away when he looks at you, you get busy in a conversation with someone when he approaches you, or you distract yourself with something right after you talk so he can’t see how nervous you feel.
One of my favorite real-life examples of this was actually said to a friend of a friend; the boy she was on a date with said, “Yeah, I have ADHD, but I don't take medication.” Another good one?
We all know the feeling: that bubbly, excited thrill of possibility that comes from dating a new guy.
But as exciting as it is to meet someone you can see as a potential boyfriend, it is important to play it cool without getting overwhelmed or overeager.
Are you guilty of watching what you say to a man for fear of appearing “too forward?
” Christian Carter explains how you might be accidentally sabotaging your chances of meeting and getting together with a great, available guy…and what does work to capture his interest.